tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post7112711701429536932..comments2024-01-22T06:24:28.359-05:00Comments on Mendel Illness : I Once Had a Daughter John Mendelssohnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03955242924713935770noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-85180044286737278522016-05-02T20:15:55.483-04:002016-05-02T20:15:55.483-04:00Perhaps her faith has produced forgiveness though....Perhaps her faith has produced forgiveness though.<br /><br />Forgiveness is to say “I no longer hate him for who he was or what he might have done.”<br /><br />Trust is to say “I know that he wouldn’t hurt me again.”<br /><br />It’s worth consideration that maybe you have been forgiven, but that her forgiveness is separate from her trust. Trust is the necessary ingredient to make our hearts vulnerable again, to know that if she were to contact you, or if you were to contact her, that the message would be full of love, not scorn.<br /><br />Since you shame her publicly, you may have unknowingly created an endless stalemate, where-by she may have been ready years ago, but the process has been drawn out by these public blogs painting her as a venomous, ungrateful child, “an unspeakable little brat”, or a hypocritical unforgiving Christian. <br /><br />Obviously I don't know. Maybe you really were great, and maybe she really was or is cruel, or maybe it’s some combination were everyone needs to be more kind and emotionally trustworthy. <br />Michalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16379678350270992315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-57791223423258945432015-09-25T13:02:21.061-04:002015-09-25T13:02:21.061-04:00I feel it. I fear I will never see my son Ethan ag...I feel it. I fear I will never see my son Ethan again. He has no interest in hearing from me or seeing me. The pain is horrendous.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04807512944438525286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-27416228750325425982015-09-25T12:51:34.396-04:002015-09-25T12:51:34.396-04:00I hadn't read Dave's comment, above, befor...I hadn't read Dave's comment, above, before now. I just happened to notice it as I was rereading your piece. I fully agree with him, however little solace that they provide. Thank you John.mrmontehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05287957929541101229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-27468771282718034372015-09-25T12:51:30.572-04:002015-09-25T12:51:30.572-04:00I hadn't read Dave's comment, above, befor...I hadn't read Dave's comment, above, before now. I just happened to notice it as I was rereading your piece. I fully agree with him, however little solace that they provide. Thank you John.mrmontehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05287957929541101229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-66056961463036228102015-02-24T23:27:37.960-05:002015-02-24T23:27:37.960-05:00What a very generous thing to say, Dave! I cherish...What a very generous thing to say, Dave! I cherish it.John Mendelssohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03955242924713935770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-85531331800616068122015-02-24T23:27:04.960-05:002015-02-24T23:27:04.960-05:00May your fear prove unfounded, Cliff.May your fear prove unfounded, Cliff.John Mendelssohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03955242924713935770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-73605657767999952972015-02-24T23:26:40.007-05:002015-02-24T23:26:40.007-05:00Thank you very much for your response, and for you...Thank you very much for your response, and for your empathy.John Mendelssohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03955242924713935770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-54169392112208207182015-02-24T21:25:19.169-05:002015-02-24T21:25:19.169-05:00John, We're about the same age and I also grew...John, We're about the same age and I also grew up in Los Angeles, and I've been reading your writing since you started. I don't think you've ever written better than you have of late on this blog. I'm sorry that pain had to be impetus for this and many other posts, but there is beauty in them.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03743825684303825072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-3160121449036798422015-02-24T20:01:46.164-05:002015-02-24T20:01:46.164-05:00John - thank you for sharing. I have a similar fea...John - thank you for sharing. I have a similar fear. Now I must figure out how to bookmark you for further exercises in empathy. <br /><br />CLiFF3noronha@gmail. Com<br />cLiff noronhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15861573431424066568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264890949924188049.post-79377859658677469332015-02-24T10:27:08.381-05:002015-02-24T10:27:08.381-05:00So, so sorry. Christian forgiveness and honoring o...So, so sorry. Christian forgiveness and honoring one's parents should apply, at the absolute minimum.raphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13603930950971861594noreply@blogger.com